What Girls Need From Their Moms- An Interview With Beth Bruno

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Beth Bruno about creating rites of passage, what girls need from their moms and how to raise strong confident kids.

 

Selected Links:

Beth’s Instagram

Beth’s new book

Beth’s Site

MOPS

 

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

 

Show Notes:

1:00 Introduction- Going Bald at 32

2:00 Widowed and then divorces with a young daughter

2:18 Dreams and tinctures

3:16 Creating 40,000 jobs

4:10 How can I muster inner fortitude and passion

5:00 Beth Bruno introduced

5:25 How to get a free copy of Beth’s book from Mandy

5:48 Mandy and Beth

6:02 Where did the idea of rite of passage come from for you

7:00 Feeling like we were floundering

7:59 A Voice Becoming

8:15 What did you do over the course of the year for your daughter

8:41 What do Rites of Passages look like

9:15 Bodies, boys and besties

9:25 Go big!

10:15 God’s questions to Hagar

10:59 Where are you going

11:22 Legacy Events

12:02 A test… were you listening

12:28 A blessing

12:38 An epic journey

14:00 Hunting for strong women (biking the Netherlands)

14:30 How did your daughter feel about the journey

15:40 Why Beth’s daughter is going to run for President

16:00 Eyes cast to a bigger vision

16:30 We are raising women, not American women

16:45 The global sisterhood

17:02 Introducing our girls to story (fiction and non)

17:53 Introducing our girls to real women

19:30 Big story living vs. small story lives

20:03 That is a 7th grader’s day

21:12 Perspective matters

22:25 What does it look like to live a remarkable life

22:47 Big transitions

23:30 I know there’s a purpose, even though it may be fuzzy

25:02 What is the best advice you never got

26:09 What are you doing right now to cultivate more fun

 

What To Do When Your Your Business Is Booming But Your Marriage Is Falling Apart- An Interview With Lisa Leonard

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Lisa Leonard about building a successful company, what to do when your marriage is falling apart, and how to bravely change up the rules you have for yourself.

 

Selected Links:

Lisa’s Instagram

Lisa’s new book

Lisa’s company

Lisa’s favorite piece right now

MOPS

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

 

Show Notes:

1:15 Introduction- Emotional Labor

2:47 Does this sound familiar

3:30 Freed up to Have More Fun

4:15 Introducing Lisa Leonard

4:59 Lisa Leonard

5:10 The Red Cereal Bowl

6:10 When growing up means you stop wanting things

6:30 About Lisa’s company

6:50 How it all started

8:21 Blowing up the business

8:55 When business takes a toll on your soul

9:15 We have a problem

9:35 When you don’t want to wear your own jewelry

10:00 I couldn’t continue

10:58 What did you learn from leaving

11:57 If I could have anything I wanted and needed what would that be

12:50 How do you simplify dinner

13:48 What would you tell the person who is trying to do it all and is about to lose it at any moment

14:18 Make space for quiet (even if just 10 minutes)

15:15 The scary stuff that emerges

15:45 What did you do to recalibrate in your marriage

16:15 Working through the hard stuff

17:10 Avoiding conflict for so long… I was terrified

18:28 Raising kids with special needs

19:30 Adoring our kids exactly as they are

20:40 What message would you give to other moms raising kids with special needs

21:21 I feel like I’m asking for the moon and people are rising to help

22:28 Don’t underestimate the power your kids have

22:41 The Brave Love Manifesto

23:38 Taking the bigger half of cake (I also deserve good things)

24:08 Say what I really think even if my knees shake and my voice cracks

25:00 What does living a remarkable life look like to you

25:45 What is the best advice you never got

27:44 What are you doing right now to cultivate more fun

28:17 Taking a nap is fun

29:25 What’s your favorite piece in the Lisa Leonard Designs store right now

When To Advocate For Your Kids When You Disagree With The Doctors- An Interview With Amanda Cant

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Amanda Cant about what to say to someone who is grieving, how to become an advocate for your children and why telling your story helps others to own theirs.

 

Selected Links:

Amanda’s Facebook Page

MOPS

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

 

Show Notes:

1:00 Introduction- Raking leaves and the “not yet” season

2:53 A blessing for you… the in-between time

4:17 Introduction of Amanda Cant

5:00 Two heartbeats on the ultrasound

7:30 Fighting even in the womb

8:25 I need to get the doctor

9:20 When a heartbeat stops

10:02 Should I terminate this pregnancy

11:23 We need to fight for our daughter

12:15 The swing of emotions

13:02 Tears of exhaustion, sadness and defeat

14:28 It was like my body didn’t know what to do

14:54 I feel like I forgot something

16:23 Why is there so much shame in loss

17:58 I feel like I’m the only one

19:35 Creating a child is a complete miracle

19:56 How can we come alongside anyone going through a season of hurting

21:48 Be present

22:15 When friends disconnect during tough times

23:37 I applaud the people who say weird things

24:30 How to use your voice and trust your gut to fight for your child

26:30 I’m not going to stop yelling until someone gets in here

28:50 One of the scariest moments of my life

29:20 Igniting positive change through tough circumstances

30:59 When your child’s hospital room looks like a Grey’s Anatomy episode

32:01 What to do when you disagree with the doctors

33:24 When your doctor tells you that you are a bad mom

37:56 Challenging doctors to question things

38:20 Can we find the source of SIDS

38:50 What would you say to other parents who feel like shrinking back from the medical community

40:05 You have all the tools you need

41:28 What’s the best advice you never got

43:40 What are you doing right now to cultivate more fun

46:20 Thank you for tuning in

Hannah Brencher- Making Big Life Decisions

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Hannah Brencher about writing letters to strangers building things out of love instead of fear and how to make friends in a new city. 

Selected Links:

Hanna’s Website

Hannah’s Instagram

More Love Letters

Hannah’s latest book “Come Matter Here: Your Invitation to Be Here in a Getting There World”

MOPS

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

 

Show Notes:

1:00 Introduction- Making big decisions by coin flips

2:15 The “happiness” result of 20,000 coin flips

3:02 The coin toss gives us clarity

3:40 How to make a decision based on a coin flip

3:55 Just say “Yes!”

4:05 Introduction of Hannah Brencher

5:00 Moving to New York City and overcoming depression

5:25 Writing letters to strangers

6:19 If you need a love letter, just ask. How it all got started

7:22 You are not the only one facing this

7:55 Did you write all the letters?

8:04 How long did it take you to write all the letters

8:45 What story stands out to you of all the letters you’ve written

10:02 The Big move

10:28 How to make friends in a new city

12:05 Happy hour instead of a speaker fee

12:45 Ikea bringing people together

13:10 The chase for the next best thing

14:01 Don’t miss what’s happening in this moment

14:41 How to be present during a busy day

15:02 Building things out of fear instead of love

16:21 I didn’t have to let fear drive the car to Atlanta

16:56 Dismantling flakiness

17:50 Showing up when you’d rather not

19:05 The Fight Song Journal

20:47 Being Where Your Feet Are and Experiencing Belonging

21:50 Belonging comes with honesty

22:48 Initiating versus waiting for others to initiate

23:40 Sometimes we have to be the invitation

24:00 Come Matter Here

25:10 Waiting on a text saying, “Come matter here”

26:03 Letting people know that they matter

26:15 A simple prayer… “God show up”

27:08 God doesn’t leave me

27:20 What does “show up” mean

27:57 What are you doing to have more fun in your life right now

29:49 What is the best advice you never got

30:49 Just because you can multi-task, doesn’t mean you should

31:15 Get the 1st Chapter of Mandy’s new book for FREE

 

Quotes:

“The moment the penny is up in the air, you suddenly know what you’re hoping” Piet Hein

If you need a love letter… just ask

Be where your feet are

It doesn’t matter what you fill it with… it usually doesn’t fill

When we spread ourselves too thin we are doing a disservice to people

Belonging is like the manual at IKEA

You have to be willing to put yourself out there

The things that are hard transform us the most

Sometimes you have to BE the invitation

Most of the prayers that we need to say are simple and they don’t need to be muddied up with a ton of beautiful, eloquent words.

I’m slowly learning as I get older that multi tasking, while it’s possible, isn’t actually something that’s most effective.

Jessica Honegger- Keeping The Long View In Spite Of Short-term Pain

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Jessica Honegger about how a pawn shop and adoption led her to start the most successful fair-trade jewelry company in the world. Also, why it’s important to value long-term efforts over short-term results.

 

Selected Links:

Jessica’s Website

Jessica’s Instagram

Noonday Collection

Jessica’s latest book

MOPS

 

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

 

Show Notes:

1:12 Introduction- Rest, Work and Play

2:01 Women prioritizing work over rest and play

2:30 Why are men and boys the way they are

3:53 Introducing Jessica Honegger

4:33 Starting the largest fair trade jewelry company in the world

4:57 How to keep moving forward in spite of your fears

5:08 The misconception of courage

5:38 Is courage accessible to all of us?

6:30 The only way around our fears is through them

7:35 The “What if“ fears that come up

8:25 Vulnerability is being able to take a risk without being tied to the outcome

8:55 I’d rather die trying than not try at all

9:20 Why is it so tempting to “bubble wrap” our lives

10:15 I can do the best job I can as a mom and my kids can still end up in jail someday

10:45 The freedom of realizing I’m not in control

11:30 My very first trunk show… how it all started

12:20 Sometimes our desperation leads to our most courageous acts

13:00 When we are convinced that no one will show up

13:40 We really do want to show up for each other

14:26 Walking compassionately

14:45 Ambassador community of Noonday Collection

15:04 Courage is contagious

15:30 Confirming the bias we want

16:37 It’s a journey

16:57 The LIE of insta-success

17:40 You can’t google your life’s purpose

18:30 How all the “random crazy things” connect

19:30 Intrinsic and extrinsic motivational forces

20:24 What you are doing matters and has purpose

20:36 What tips do you have for women entrepreneurs

21:00 Believe in what you are doing and it’s got to be connected to your purpose

21:39 You have to take the long view over the short term pain

22:44 There’s a waiting that is expectant… you’ve just to keep at it

23:48 Thoughts for someone who’s got big dreams but feels stuck

24:38 There’s just nothing that’s going to give you proof that there will be success… you just have to move

24:50 Test the market and have the conversations

25:25 What to do if you are interested in becoming a Noonday Ambassador

26:49 What’s the best advice you never got

27:12 What are you doing in your life right now to cultivate more fun

 

Quotes:

Fear can be in the car, but it can’t be in the driver’s seat

Sometimes our desperation leads to our most courageous acts

Courage is contagious

Insta-success is a LIE

There’s a waiting that is expectant

Popsicles are a viable meal for lunch

How To Be A Cozy Minimalist- An Interview with Myquillyn Smith

Description:

In this episode Mandy talk with Myquillyn Smith about creating a cozy home that works and partners with you and everyone in it, they also discuss naked feet and why Myquillyn hates seeing toes, and how to decorate a place you rent.

Selected Links:

Myquillyn’s Instagram

The Nester Website

Pre-order the Cozy Minimalist Home

Make sure to click “Watch Video” to see the amazing home and be sure to order the book soon to get some awesome pre-order bundles (only on Oct 23rd).

MOPS

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

 

Show Notes:

1:08 Introduction- How Green Eggs and Ham came about

2:22 We spend HOW??? much time looking for missing items

2:35 Myquellyn Smith intro

3:07 The new book

4:04 What does it look like to practice Cozy Minimalism

6:18 The shift of making a home look better to serving better

7:09 Why we don’t use our home the way we really want to

8:20 Buying more stuff isn’t the only solution

8:38 How to find the perfect sofa

10:36 Should I get a recliner sofa or a sofa with a name (like a Camelback, Birch Arm or Chesterfield)

12:30 If your rug is Oprah your drapes are Gail

14:23 Best tips on decorating a home you rent

15:29 What is the percentage of 2 out of 12 months?

16:27 Should I change the light fixtures on a rental home

17:53 We need to talk… why don’t you like feet?

18:40 No naked toes… they need to be censored

19:38 What is the best advice you never got

21:20 Myquillyn flips the script and asks Mandy what is her best advice she never got

22:01 What are you doing to cultivate more fun in life right now

24:18 A special guest closes the podcast today

Ben Higgins- How To Leave A Mark On This World While Pursuing What You Love

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Ben Higgins from Season 20 of the Bachelor about his favorite moment from behind the scenes, they also discuss airplane etiquette, why he wears a retainer every night, along with Ben’s favorite practice for decompressing after a crazy day and his new adventure leading Generous Coffee.

 

Selected Links:

Ben’s Instagram

Ben’s Podcast Almost Famous

Ben’s other podcast Lady Bosses (and Ben)

Generous Coffee

MOPS http://www.mops.org/

 

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

 

Show Notes:

1:04 Introduction- An irresistible application to NYU

3:40 What makes this essay so unexpected is that it disrupted the system

4:08 Sometimes life requires disrupting the system

4:22 Ben Higgins introduction

5:00 Don’t miss Mandy and Ben’s Carpool Karaoke at www.mandyarioto.com

5:31 What was the most memorable moment on the Bachelor

6:45 What does pig poop have to do with getting sick

7:30 Seeing the human side of your future spouse

7:57 Wearing retainers every night

9:01 Tips for dealing with negative feedback

11:14 I don’t know if I’m doing all of this correctly

12:30 Generous Coffee- How’d it get started and how did you get involved

14:59 Humanity Hope United

17:00 If you drink coffee, why not make it life changing

17:57 Following Jesus is holy and deep, but also fun and takes us places we would never expect

18:15 What is Jesus showing you now

19:18 When God won’t allow us to leave Him

20:00 What to do when people take their shoes off in an airplane

22:30 How to enter and exit a plane properly

24:30 What to do when you don’t want to talk on a plane

25:44 Rapid Fire

25:45 Favorite thing that happened to you this past week

27:16 Last time you cried

28:50 Favorite Room in your house

32:45 Jesus, my pipe and bourbon

34:08 Did you get an offer to be on the Bachelor this next season?

35:22 What is the last thing you cooked

35:49 What’s one thing career wise that you haven’t had a chance to do yet

36:55 What is the best advice you never got

How to be a hero, even when you feel like a fraud- an interview with Justin Zoradi

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Justin Zoradi about doing work that matters, how to be a hero and what to do when you feel like a fraud.

 

Selected Links:

Justin’s website

Justin’s Instagram

Justin’s latest book

Giving Fuel

These Numbers Have Faces

 

MOPS

 

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

 

Show Notes:

1:00 Introduction

4:34 Mandy and Justin interview

5:04 What made being ordinary so powerful (the story of Le Chambon)

7:30 What do all the heroes have in common

8:40 You don’t need to “be someone” to be important

9:24 Lord, I’ll go wherever you need me

10:30 How to accomplish amazing things

11:20 The moment of obligation to do something remarkable

13:23 When our life looks different from others

14:04 A park bench conversation with God

14:50 These numbers have faces- favorite story

18:09 Tips for people experiencing their moment of obligation

20:55 When the comparison game kicks in

21:10 They have their story and I have mine

22:10 When well meaning people make it worse for us

23:12 What to do when I feel like a fraud

24:30 The story of Andrew Garfield

26:45 If you don’t do it… you will die

27:50 It’s okay to leave work unfinished

30:15 You don’t have to do everything… some things are meant to be incomplete

31:24 Parenting by letting go

32:40 What is the best advice you never got

34:45 No-one is really paying attention, so fail hard and big

35:06 What are you doing right now to cultivate more fun

 

 

 

 

Body image and your kids- an interview with Hillary McBride

In this episode Mandy talks with Hillary McBride about what it means to be a powerful woman, the complexities of shame, and how our body image can impact our kids.

 

Selected Links:

Hillary’s website 

Hillary’s Instagram

Hillary’s latest book

MOPS 

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

 

Show Notes:

0:55 Introduction

3:59 Hillary and Mandy

4:45 How do we learn to love our body in this present moment

7:00 How does body image impact our kids

9:43 Two strongest influences on kids for body image (besides parents)

10:24 Difference between mothers and daughters vs. mothers and sons

12:08 Dad’s influence on body image

12:55 What does it mean to be a powerful woman

14:15 What creates power

16:00 Different kinds of power

17:12 The dance between my identity as a woman and as a mom

20:00 Make room for all of your identities

21:15 Working with people who’ve had spiritual trauma

22:30 How to deal with trauma stemming from a faith system

24:58 How to help people who are going through abuse or trauma

25:30 Complex trauma

26:23 What is the best advice you never got

How to Live Your Passion- An Interview With Danielle Strickland

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Danielle Strickland about being curious, going faster when you have a dream and why surrender is essential to freedom.

 

Selected Links:

Danielle’s website

Danielle’s newest book “The Zombie Gospel: The Walking Dead and What It Means to be Human”

Danielle’s Instagram

Danielle’s other books

Infinitum

Brave Global

Amplify Peace

Women Speakers Collective

 

MOPS

 

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

 

Show Notes:

0:58 Introduction

1:35 Lipstick is Warpaint

4:28 The 1967 Boston Marathon

7:03 Something to prove to the world

8:10 Introduction of Danielle Strickland

8:40 Our brains aren’t full

9:56 I feel like a snake- I keep growing out of my skin

10:44 The invitation to Nicodemus is the same to us

12:23 How curiosity enlarged my journey

13:30 From fear to engagement

14:50 Fear based ignorance

15:45 The Forrest Gump anointing

17:15 The problem with planning too far ahead

18:18 Go Faster… less thinking, more doing

19:00 Knowing about God and Knowing God aren’t the same

21:27 Freedom and Surrender are Soul Sisters

22:04 Freedom begins here…

23:08 The desire of our heart

24:40 Going to the desert is a good thing

25:37 Being forced to surrender

26:30 I couldn’t have done it from a place of strength

27:27 The Brave Initiative (fighting human trafficking)

28:40 Where were you when I was 11?

30:14 We have another idea for your life

31:08 Where do people go to plug in to Brave?

31:17 What is the best advice you never got

Connect With Your Kids- An Interview With Kirk Cameron

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Kirk Cameron about kids and cell phones, how his family sets healthy boundaries with technology and Kirk tells a ridiculously cute story about how he met his wife.

 

Selected Links:

Kirk’s website

Connect Movie

Kirk’s Instagram

Mandy's New Book- Have More Fun!

MOPS 

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

 

Show Notes:

0:58 Introduction

3:05 3 Quick Ways To Start Boosting Your Self Control

4:21 Why you should freeze your credit card in your freezer

5:36 Mandy introduces Kirk Cameron

6:45 Why Kirk’s wife buys their kids gift on mother’s day

8:03 That time we bought all our kids cell phones for mother’s day

9:05 When things started to turn with technology

9:40 How we struggle to manage our kids tech usage

10:38 What are the biggest concerns around tech and kids

12:01 The 5 Lies That Tech Culture is Teaching Our Kids

13:45 What do kids really need

14:44 Tips for parents who see kids becoming discontent

15:15 The Real World vs. The Virtual World

16:42 Our kids are getting bombarded

16:58 Creating a healthy world for our kids to live in

17:36 Put your own phone down and be with your kids

18:20 Model by regulating ourselves

18:42 How breaking my phone worked out for me

19:42 No Phone Zones

20:20 How to get rid of the “impulse use” of tech

21:21 Maximize and emphasis the relationship with your child

21:41 The Danger of Not having a relationship with your child

22:15 Why “Connect” is so good

23:08 When I as a mom am a little extreme in my response to tech

23:50 Practical tips to help us with tech

25:25 Helpful tools are not a replacement for good parenting, but it can help

25:47 Start with zero privileges and increase as it’s earned

28:48 When a freedom becomes bad for a kid it’s time to step in

29:09 Where can I go to watch Connect

30:08 Should I watch the movie with my kids

31:25 Let’s talk about Growing Pains

31:52 Favorite moments from Growing Pains

32:30 The first time I kissed my wife on the show

34:03 The beauty of Anbesol

35:35 As parents we need to stick together because we are pioneer parents

36:58 Mandy’s new book… an announcement

How to tear up the rule book and create a life you love- an interview with Erin Loechner

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Erin Loechner about why getting up early is awesome, tips for having a healthy relationship with social media and how to change the rules when they aren’t working for you.

 

Selected Links:

Erin’s Website

Erin’s Book - Chasing Slow

Erin’s Instagram 

MOPS 

 

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

 

Show Notes:

0:57 Introduction

4:58 Interview with Erin Loechner

6:14 How to rip up the rule book and do something different

7:30 Life is short, short, short…

8:15 Even the smallest change is going to do something

9:15 Thinking about living is not the same as actually living

11:05 Being one click away

12:05 The real Erin… come on over, you never know what you’ll get

13:08 We live very different lives, but the same life

14:04 The Good List on Instagram

15:29 Am I giving off a false sense of reality

17:30 Valuing the unimportant

18:24 I am passionate about tearing up the rules

19:20 Why I go to bed at 6:00pm and wake up at 2:00am

20:15 How to get out of making dinner and doing the dishes

20:44 How I can do it all by tearing up the rulebook

21:04 Self imposed rules that can be broken

21:19 Tricks to waking up early

22:13 Creative Geniuses

23:15 Surrendering in motherhood and working

25:04 How does being a mom look so easy from the outside

25:40 The time I left the room and my baby stopped crying immediately

27:16 Trying to control it made it worse

27:40 Honoring life’s weight but holding it loosely

28:21 I’m working to take myself out of the center of the story

29:01 Is this bringing vitality to my life?

31:13 What is the best advice you never got

33:46 How are you cultivating more fun in your life right now

How to be a working mom- a new look with Shannon Miles

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Shannon Miles about multi-tasking, the time she met Richard Branson, and how to be a working mom in a new way. Listen in if you want to get back into the workforce, want to work for yourself or long for more flexibility in your job.

 

Selected Links:

Shannon’s Instagram

Shannon’s website

Shannon’s book

MOPS

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

 

Show Notes:

0:53 Introduction

3:08 That time you met Richard Branson

5:33 If your dreams don’t scare you they aren’t big enough

7:28 I feel exhausted and also feel like I’m not doing enough

8:19 Why is it so hard to ask for help as women

10:06 What is a Third Option

13:43 Tell us how you started your company and won the “The Best Company Culture” award from Entrepreneur Magazine

15:55 Pursuing full-time work from home

16:48 The challenges of being a working mom

17:36 Staying Present

18:44 Not overbooking (plan to be present)

19:22 Tell us about your book and how it looks different for different women

20:52 Just decide

21:10 Do something about it

22:07 What is success to you- You can have it all

23:46 Where can people get more info about Belay and 3rd Option

24:38 What is the best advice you never got

26:20 How do you cultivate more fun in your life

 

 

Rachel Hollis on how to have great sex and an intentional life (but mostly sex)

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with Rachel Hollis about her tips for having great sex, why we need to stop breaking promises to ourselves and how to live a life we actually enjoy. Listen to this if you need some motivation or just a little advice on being the best version of you.

 

Selected Links:

Rachel’s Instagram

Rachel’s website

Rachel’s book: Girl, Wash Your Face: Stop Believing the Lies About Who You Are so You Can Become Who You Were Meant to Be

MOPS

 

Music by:

Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

 

Show Notes:

0:53 Introduction

3:30 Mandy and Rachel’s interview

3:49 When have you had to change things that weren’t working for you

4:35 Why do we forget that we can change things

5:58 What is your best advice for defeating the lies we tell ourselves

6:42 You are doing fine- there is no expiration date on who you are supposed to be

7:07 Why are we obsessed with TIME

7:50 I would have given up

8:15 Shaving your toes and the lie that I’m better than you

9:55 What happens when we judge others who do things differently

10:23 The lie that I’m bad at sex and how do we change that narrative

11:14 How does a preacher’s daughter learn about sex

12:25 Taking a hard look at what was going on in my sex life- why was I making it uncomfortable for both of us

13:15 What can I do to have fun in my sex life

13:40 The other side of discomfort

14:24 If sex was incredible, I’d want it as much as he does

15:12 If someone’s sex life sucks right now, what do they do

15:53 How to have an honest conversation about sex

16:51 Sex is mental for women

17:56 Keep adding to the arsenal of tools to have better sex

18:18 Sexy September- the more intimate we were, the more we wanted it

19:13 If you had an orgasm every time during sex, you’d want it all the time

20:15 Nothing would make your husband happier than this

21:10 Never breaking a promise to yourself

22:22 Why can I keep commitments to others but not to myself

23:30 We have to be careful about what we commit to do

24:41 Only say yes when you feel “Hell YES!”

25:18 There just aren’t enough resources to say yes to everything

25:50 Why I don’t volunteer at my kids school

27:27 Be clear on the things that matter to YOUR family

27:45 How to have dreams as a parent

28:50 You were a woman before you became a mom

29:43 Let go of the guilt. It’s not serving you or your babies

30:11 We teach our kids by our example

30:33 Figure out what makes you happy and do those things

31:44 How to avoid getting burned to the bottom of your barrel

32:10 Self care is what YOU believe to be of value

32:47 There is nothing in your calendar that you didn’t put there

33:08 What is the best advice you never go

34:08 Never judge your worth on someone else’s opinion

34:42 How to teach your kids that other’s opinion doesn’t matter

36:32 What are you doing right now in your life to cultivate more fun

 

 

JJ and Dave Heller- Life as an artist

Description:

In this episode Mandy talks with JJ and Dave Heller about how to balance work and being a mom, getting comfortable being different and how to work with a spouse. You will love JJ and Dave's lighthearted and fun nature as you listen in on a conversation about life on the road and what to do when things don't go as planned.

Selected Links:

Stories on JJ’s site

JJ's Instagram

JJ's YouTube Page

So You Think You Can Dance Video

What love really means

Upcoming Shows

MOPS

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

Special Note:

JJ will be releasing I Dream of You - Vol II later this year. Here is her kickstarter program that you won't want to miss. Click Here Album will release in November.

Show Notes:

0:53 Introduction

2:35 For Domestic Days (a liturgy for you)

4:13 JJ and Dave Heller introduction

4:53 Non-stick cookware

7:01 An unexpected response

7:53 How to give the best gift to your spouse

9:11 Making music together

9:40 How’d you guys meet

10:22 How do you pronounce djembe

11:20 So You Think You Can Dance

12:23 How a song literally saved a life

13:05 How does God want to use me

13:40 How Bob Goff redefined success for us

14:25 Who needs hope and peace

16:16 How have you found your place in music

16:48 Fitting in vs Belonging

17:55 Why our music isn’t on the radio

18:50 How to make sense of tragedy

19:50 I Dream of You- how it’s changed the world

21:48 What if we just take a break

22:40 When your music accidentally puts kids to sleep

24:08 When things don’t go as you planned

25:47 Boring music doesn’t play well in a concert

26:30 Why we donate music to foster families

26:55 When and how things shifted

27:40 I Dream of You- 2 (a new album)

29:45 How to deal with creative differences

31:00 JJ the Incredible Hulk song writer

32:00 How to deliver criticism

34:00 The funny thing about lullabies

35:57 Fact check for Mother Theresa

36:24 How sexy is it to be on the road

37:35 Dealing with loneliness on the road

39:15 3 Days of travel for less than 45 minutes on the stage

40:20 It’s a miracle that I get to do this

41:31 What’s the best advice you never got

42:50 A quote from Cool Runnings

Jennifer Fulwiler- How do you do it all as a mom

In this episode Mandy talks with Jennifer Fulwiler about doing it all, defining success, and how to pursue your passion while raising a family. Listen in if you feel guilty about working, or needing help, or if you feel like you are overanalyzing all your decisions and want more freedom to really live.

Selected Links:

http://jenniferfulwiler.com/

Jennifer's new book

www.mops.org

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

Show Notes:

1:05 Introduction (some notes on Theodore Roosevelt)

5:59 Mandy and Jennifer Fulwiler

6:15 How to navigate it all

8:22 When the life you need is not the one you’d choose

9:50 Overfed and Undernourished

10:53 How was life as parents different for our grandparents (decision fatigue)

13:02 The benefit of getting up before your kids

15:30 Asking for help when you need it (find what works for this season for YOU)

17:00 How do you ask for what you want

18:58 If it feels like life’s hard, the problem is not you

20:30 Where the title “One Beautiful Dream” comes from

22:04 What matters at the end of our lives

23:03 Being open to unexpected opportunities

27:50 What is the best advice you never got

32:15 How do you cultivate more fun in your life

 

Harris III- Being Weird and Telling Good Stories

In this episode Mandy talks with Harris iii about why being weird is great, how to regain wonder and why telling good stories to our kids is life-changing. Listen to this episode if you feel like you don’t fit in, are tired or worn down, or want to learn how to stop worrying and start living.

 

Selected Links:

https://harrisiii.com/

www.story2018.com

www.storygatherings.com

www.mops.org

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

 

Show Notes:

:54 Introduction

3:29 Mandy and Harris

4:00 How to make peace with being weird

5:08 Have I gone mad?

6:13 In a sea of same, weird wins

7:12 How to deal with bullies

8:40 Why I call my kids names

10:21 Wonder is a light switch

12:22 How do we turn the wonder switch back on

14:03 How to keep wonder awake

15:20 Being Tricked

16:45 Who is writing the script for your life

17:30 How things are sold with deception

17:45 Which is it: deception, persuasion or leading

18:55 Finding congruency between the stage and real life

21:03 Being loved for who I am, not for what I do

22:30 At 15 I made more money in 1 year than both my parents made in 2 years.

23:15 Why do we care what bullies think

25:25 Meeting our creative work half way

26:43 A story without conflict is not an interesting story

27:30 The role story tellers play in the world- helping people re-imagine what could be

28:35 MLK was a master story teller

29:30 Story tellers have super powers

30:10 Everyone is a story teller

31:17 What is the best advice you never got

32:28 Being childish vs being child-like

33:12 We use our imagination as adults, often it shows up as worry

34:08 How do you cultivate more fun in your life

35:00 Food fight night

 

How to deal with criticism and get what you want- an interview with Amanda Inchaustegui

In this episode Mandy talks with Amanda Inchaustegui about dealing with criticism, how to be empowered in your everyday life, and the one thing healthy people do. Listen to this episode if you want tricks for living your best life, are desperate for more joy and are ready to get curious about what is holding you back.

Selected Links:

If you would like to experience the life improving affect of working with a coach Amanda is offering an introductory coaching vision session with one of the Novus Global coaches. Just send her an email at amanda@novus.global and she will connect you with one of their amazing coaches.

Amanda's site

MOPS

Show Notes:

  :43 Introduction

1:42 Be occasionally remarkable

3:00 Do a few things well

3:28 Introducing Amanda

4:14 Where do we start to get what we want

4:44 Why complaints are important

7:40 What are you tolerating

11:15 Holding space for people to give an account

13:30 How to step into empowered space

14:30 Dealing with loss of pregnancy

18:31 Recognizing Rackets

18:40 Look good, feel good, be right and in control

20:50 How to deal with people who irritate you

22:25 How to self evaluate when you are running a racket

22:30 What are the behaviors and beliefs that reinforce our complaints

27:10 Taking on responsibility I shouldn’t

29:45 Committing to calm (how powerful are our brains)

32:21 What is the superhero trick we all have

33:01 How to deal with feedback

34:48 Perception is everything

35:40 Getting feedback from our kids

38:09 Coaching tips from a pro

39:30 Get curious about vision before “going there”

41:15 Being detached from the noticing

41:40 Dealing with hard feedback

45:06 What is the best advice you never got

Candace Cameron Bure- Kind Is the New Classy

On this episode Mandy talks with Candace Cameron Bure about her latest book, “Kind Is the New Classy”. Listen to this episode if you need some practical tips on handling your crazy life and dealing with close friends who differ from you.

Selected Links:

Candace's website

Kind Is the New Classy- The Power of Living Graciously

MOPS

Music by: Phillip E Morris "Sunshine & Blue Skies" soundcloud.com/philipemorris & pema.bandcamp.com

 

Show Notes:

:56 Mandy’s Introduction

3:43 Mandy and Candace

3:55 How Whoopi Goldberg helped on a hard day

5:45 Mamma Bear hugs have power

6:45 Going back to work with purpose

7:50 How do you maintain your energy with a crazy schedule

8:42 Practical advice for doing it all

10:00 Learning to say “no”

11:11 How to deal with friends who are different from you

13:18 Getting closure and being at peace

14:50 You can still be kind even though you don’t agree with people

15:30 What parenting lesson from Full House or Fuller House do you use in real life

16:10 What’s it like to kiss other men who aren’t your husband
18:20 How do you create fun in your life

19:30 How do you stay present in the moment while doing so much

21:03 What is most critical to making it all work as a mother

How to be Inspired, Live Intentionally and Breakup with Your T.V.

Francie and her husband decided to try an experiment. How would their home life change if they got rid of their T.V.? Francie shares the details of what a life minus Game of Thrones looks like. Listen to this if your home feels chaotic, you are tired of yelling at your kids and want to have more fun with them, you feel distracted all the time, or you feel like you have no margin to do the things you love.

Selected Links:

Francie's website

MOPS

Show Notes:

1:03 Mandy’s Introduction

4:20 Are you breathing just a little

4:40 Introduction of Francie Winslow

5:20 Mandy and Francie start talking about getting rid of the TV

6:55 Earthquakes in D.C.

7:45 What to do about family members who "need" TV

8:58 What are the biggest differences you've seen from getting rid of the TV

10:35 Do your kids get along better without TV

11:30 Are movies bad for your kids

13:00 Was your husband on board for this?

13:55 What about phones and other tech in your house

15:45 What are the motives for my use of technology

16:45 Taking a week off from reading anything

17:20 How to respond to people who say kids need technology early to adapt to it

18:45 Why does Francie’s husband ask permission to use his phone

20:10 What’s the best advice you never got

21:25 Rhythms of rest

22:46 3 Practical tips for recalibrating tech in the house